Being Single: “I am always on the hunt for something new as I get bored easily” – Times of India

She may have been happily single for a while but is still open to marriage with terms and conditions applied. We spoke to Daisy, 34, who is a media professional, on how’s life as a single soul, and here is what she has shared with us.

Does it annoy you when people ask why you are single?

It used to earlier. But then I realized that if I need to go against socially prevalent norms, I must be thick-skinned. I can’t go on reacting to each and every question that comes into my marital status. This came to me when I turned 30. At this age, I took charge of how I will react to society, not how society will affect me. Four years later, I can proudly say I have been able to hold on to that.

Why do you think singlehood is questioned so much?

It is because of the religious inclination we all have which dictates that a person is complete only when he or she enters into a ‘holy’ relationship with the other gender. This concept of lock and key, called marriage, blinds our belief in singlehood. Maybe this is why singlehood is questioned so much.

What are the weirdest, funniest questions you have been asked about being single?

I have been asked many but some of these are: “You are single, you must be lonely”, “You are single, you have no responsibility” and the best is “You are single, you must be saving lots of money”.

What strengths do you find in the power of being single?

I don’t see any exceptional power in my singlehood. But sometimes when I see my friends in unhappy marriages, I feel lucky. Also, sometimes when I come across a couple who is unhappy or bitter towards each other I consider singlehood a better option. Otherwise, I am a complete woman doing my job and having a place in society and I am pretty happy about that.

Did past relationship experiences play a role in your choosing singlehood? What made you realise or decide that you no longer want a partner?

Never! My past relationships have been bad, in fact, worse. But that has never made me turn bitter toward marriage or towards men. To this day, I still have a good number of male friends. The only explanation for my singlehood might have stemmed from the urge to professionally become more capable. I always feel there is a lot left for me to accomplish. Another reason might be my hyperactive brain. I am always on the hunt for something new. Boredom comes to me easily. A new course, a new passion, or something new in cooking- I am always busy doing something, which I could do with a man by my side, but I haven’t thought about it yet.

Any advice for women and men who are contemplating singlehood?

Do it only when you are prepared for it. I have come across several people who stay single after walking out of a marriage or after their engagement broke. These people fear society’s judgmental eyes. They are scared that others will judge them for entering into so many relationships. I condemn this mentality. Do whatever feels good. We have PMs and CMs in our country who did not marry; these people did not marry but are our leaders and at the same time we see our parents who are happily married. So the onus is on us to decide what life we need to choose.

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